Orgasm in 5 Minutes (14 page)

Now what?

If you have read the book carefully and you have followed my advice, I am sure you have been able to have easier, longer, and more intense orgasms than before. However, whether you have a steady partner or you have casual sex, life never fails to offer new incentives to fully enjoy your sexuality, as well as new difficulties.

Banish the routine.
I know you come home tired from work, and you have to clean around the house and maybe take care of the children. But if you allow the routine to overpower you, and the only thing you do is watch TV and go to sleep right after, life will end up looking monotonous.

Why should it be any different with sex? If you always do it in the same position, at the same time, and in the same place, even if everything works well, more or less, sooner or later you will get bored. Do you not make small changes in your work to make it more bearable? Do you not change the furniture occasionally to give your home a different ambiance? Why then do you not do that with sex? In the end, this is the most pleasant road to happiness. Review the suggestions in
Chapter 8
. Here are a few more:

Sit naked
with your partner on the living room carpet in front of a bowl of peeled shrimp or clams and feed each other.

Buy yourself a vibrator
and use it with your partner next Monday. Yes, only if it is Monday!

Suggest that you go for a walk out in the countryside.
That day put on a long skirt and no underwear. Once you are in a secluded spot, ask him to lie down on the grass, open his fly, and, without removing your clothes, sit on his penis and gently put him inside you. It will be very exciting to make love surrounded by nature . . . Also, if someone should walk by, you can pretend that you are just listening to the sound of birds.

The next time you go on vacation,
give yourselves a bath at sunset. Start stroking him underwater. Be sure that it is in a place where you have some stability!

Make an effort.
Enjoying sex requires time and attention. Besides the fact that we are not born knowing, you can always learn more. Read books with your partner about sex. Or read them yourself and share your discoveries with him. Leaf through magazines; watch movies. It is not about your doing this every day. Who has time for that? But, occasionally, treat yourself and look for that article you were told about or rent that movie in the video store. Your effort will not be in vain.

Feel pretty!
Remember that you are attractive. And do not wait for your partner to tell you so. Exercise, be mindful of the calories, make sure your skirt fits snugly around the hips, and go get a haircut . . . Feel pretty! You are an orgasmic being, and you will continue to be so for as long as you want. One of my nephews told me that he once caught his grandmother masturbating and froze. But why not? Sexuality has no age, nor does beauty. It is not a matter of opinion, but of attitude. If you like yourself, others will like you!

Precious time.
Today we live in a world of haste and stress in which it seems that there is never time for anything. However, if you stop for a moment, you will realize that you actually waste time on activities that do not interest nor satisfy you. Your sexual relationships require that you dedicate to them a portion of that precious time. And you do not need to go very far to find the motivation. Is there anything that makes you feel healthier than an orgasm? On the bus, at work, at home alone, in those brief moments of leisure that are often wasted, think about sex. Imagine, fantasize, and exercise your vaginal muscles . . . . You may not have to wait until you go to bed to enjoy once more.

Glossary

AIDS.
Acquired immunodeficiency syndrome, an STD that causes progressive weakening of the body’s defense system. The acronym AIDS is how it is known in many places, especially on the Internet.

Amenorrhea.
Lack of menstruation.

Anovulatory.
Substance that impedes ovulation and, therefore, pregnancy.

Ben Wa balls.
Metal or latex balls that are inserted into the vagina to tone muscles and produce excitement.

Bisexual.
A person who has sex with people of both genders.

Cervix.
Part of the uterus that connects it to the vagina.

Chancre
. Type of hard, painless sore caused by syphilis; appears in the vagina, anus, or mouth.

Clitoris.
Essential genital organ in female sexuality. It is located above the urethra, or opening where urine is expelled, and it is covered by something like a hood. It is erectile like a man’s penis.

Coitus interruptus.
Latin term used to describe an ineffective birth control method that involves removing the penis from the vagina before the ejaculation occurs.

Condom.
Balloon-shaped contraceptive. Generally made out of latex and molds to the shape of the penis. It prevents sperm from reaching the cervix. There are also female condoms, although that is a more recent and less widespread method.

Contraception.
All methods used to prevent pregnancy.

Contraceptive injection.
(See anovulatory) Anovulatory contraceptive that consists of supplying a large amount of hormones. It is applied approximately every 2 months. It may have side effects.

Contraceptive pill.
Hormonal contraception that is very reliable but requires constancy and memory, as it must be taken each day for a period of 21 days.

Cunnilingus.
Latin expression used to refer to the stimulation of the female genitals with the mouth.

Cystitis.
Bladder infection that causes irritation and painful urination.

Diaphragm.
Contraceptive “barrier” that prevents sperm from reaching the uterus. The first time, it must be placed inside the vagina by a gynecologist. It must be precisely placed 2 hours before sex, and then removed.

Ejaculation.
Expulsion of seminal fluid or semen through the penis.

Embryo.
Name given to the fertilized egg during the first 3 months of pregnancy.

Endometrium.
Wall membrane of the uterus where the fertilized egg is implanted. Each month, if there is no pregnancy, it detaches along with other substances and it is expelled through the vagina. This expulsion is usually called “menstruation” or “a period.”

Erection.
Hardening and enlargement of the penis or clitoris. It is caused by increased blood flow to these areas during sexual arousal.

Fallopian tubes.
Ducts that connect the ovaries to the uterus or womb. Through them the egg travels, and fertilization occurs in them.

Fellatio.
Stimulation of the penis with the mouth.

Fertile days.
Time when women’s ovulation occurs and pregnancy is therefore likely. Includes days 10 through 18 of the cycle.

Fertilization.
Union of a sperm and an egg.

Fetus.
Name given to the embryo after the third month of pregnancy.

Genital herpes.
STD that causes inflammation of the genital organs and pain during intercourse.

Genitals.
Group of organs that are involved in sex and reproduction.

Glans penis.
Tip of the penis.

G-spot.
Sort of large mole or protrusion located on the anterior wall of the vagina, about two or three centimeters from the entrance. It is extremely sensitive, and its stimulation is accompanied by great sexual excitement.

Hormonal implants.
Subcutaneous implants that release hormones that inhibit pregnancy. They are placed for 5 years.

Hormone.
Chemical substance that regulates the functioning of organs and the body in general.

Hymen.
Membrane that partially protects the entrance to the vagina. Commonly called “virgo.”

Intercourse.
Sexual encounter that includes penetration.

IUD (intrauterine device).
Contraceptive consisting of a small piece of plastic that the gynecologist places inside the uterus for a period of 5 to 10 years.

Labia majora.
Also called “external labia.” Folds of skin surrounding the vulva to protect it.

Labia minora.
Folds of skin that protect the vagina, urethra, and clitoris. Located below the labia majora, they are also called “inner labia.”

Latex.
Material increasingly used to manufacture many items related to sex: condoms, Ben Wa balls, anal cones, and others.

Libido.
(See
sexual desire
)

Masturbation.
Self-stimulation of the sex organs to have an orgasm. Often done with the hands, but different objects may be used.

Menstrual cycle.
Interval of time from the first day of your period until the first day of the next period. Its duration varies from woman to woman, but it is always around 28 days.

Menstruation.
Blood flow that is expelled through the vagina. Occurs once a month due to shedding of the endometrium and other substances from the uterine lining if pregnancy has not occurred.

Mons pubis.
Female genital area covered with hair.

Morning-after pill.
A hormonal compound administered after risky sex. It must be taken within 72 hours after intercourse and used only in case of an emergency.

Ovaries
. Female sex glands that produce the eggs. Located on the sides of the uterus, to which they are linked through the fallopian tubes.

Ovulation.
Process of formation and release of the egg from the ovary toward the uterus through the fallopian tubes. Coincides with the days of maximum fertility for the woman.

Ovum.
Female sex cell.

Patch.
Small adhesive square that sticks to the skin and acts as a contraceptive, releasing hormones that are absorbed through the skin and enter the bloodstream.

Pelvis.
Area of the body located on the lower abdomen.

Penis.
Male genitalia. It consists of body and glands. In idle status it is limp and flexible. When it is erect due to sexual arousal, it enlarges and stiffens.

Period.
(See
menstruation
)

Plateau.
One of the phases of an orgasm.

Pregnancy.
Implantation of an ovum fertilized by a sperm in the endometrium, located in the walls of the uterus.

Premature ejaculation.
Ejaculation that occurs before it is desired.

Premenstrual syndrome.
Light mental and physical changes that occur in some women in the days before menstruation.

Pulling out.
(See
coitus interruptus
)

Rhythm method.
Contraceptive method named after its discoverer. It is related to the temperature of the vagina, and it is scarcely reliable.

Scrotum.
A type of skin pouch that holds the testicles.

Semen.
Milky-white liquid that carries sperm. Secreted by the testes.

Sexual desire.
Also called “libido.” Impulse that leads us to want to have sex with another person.

Sexually transmitted disease (STD).
Disease that is transmitted through sexual contact. Penetration is not necessary to occur, since it can also be transmitted through oral sex.

Sperm.
(See
semen
)

Spermatozoid.
Male sex cell. The testes produce it. Travels in the semen through the vagina and cervix to fertilize the egg.

Spermicides.
Substances that kill sperm. Often used in the form of gel or jelly to complement other contraceptives.

STD.
(See
sexually transmitted disease
)

Syphilis.
STD that is virtually eradicated today, although very serious and widespread in the past. Today it is easily cured with penicillin. The first symptom is a sore (see
chancre
) in the vagina, anus, or mouth.

Testicles.
Male glands that produce sperm.

Transsexual.
Person who feels as though he or she belongs to the opposite gender.

Transvestite.
Person who wears clothes of the opposite gender.

Tubal ligation.
Radical and definitive method of contraception. Consists of cutting the tubes to prevent the egg from meeting with sperm, thus preventing fertilization and pregnancy.

Urethra.
Tube that connects the bladder to the outside of the body. It is used to expel urine and, in the case of men, also to expel semen.

Uterus.
Female genital organ where the pregnancy develops. In its walls is the endometrium, which is where the egg will remain once fertilized.