How to Make Love All Night (and Drive Your Woman Wild) (And Drive a Woman Wild : Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking) (11 page)

Try your next plateau at Level 6. This time, you’re going to use your PC muscle to help you ride the wave.

Your partner is continuing her caress. Your arousal level is rising. When you reach a point just beyond Level 6, give your PC muscle a couple of squeezes. Your level should stop rising—it could even drop slightly.

Your partner is still continuing her caress. Focus on her stimulation. Every time your level hits “6.5,” squeeze that muscle. Try to hold this plateau for at least fifteen seconds.

Now let’s try a plateau at Level 7 with the third technique: changing your motion. In the last exercise, you changed your hand motion. But you’re working with a partner now. So in this exercise, you’re going to change the motion of your pelvis.

As your partner caresses you, try responding with some gentle thrusts and rolls of your pelvis. Nothing too quick or abrupt, and nothing too stiff. Just nice, easy thrusts and rolls.

Let your arousal rise.

Once you pass Level 7, slow down or stop your pelvic motion. Your level should start to drop, even though your partner is continuing her caress. If you dip below “7,” speed up your movements. Your

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level should start to rise again. It’s that simple. Using this technique, try to ride Level 7 for at least fifteen seconds.

Now let’s try the fourth technique—switching the focus—to create a plateau at Level 8.

In chapter 6 you learned how to focus all of your attention on the areas that you or your partner were touching at that very moment. But it is also possible to intentionally shift your focus to an area that is
not
being touched at that moment. This is different from changing the area where you are being touched, as you did in the previous exercise. This time, you are only making a
mental
shift in your focus.

Let’s say that your partner has been focusing her caress on the head of your penis. Your attention has been focused there too. By now, that area is feeling extremely sensitive and you are very aroused. As you pass Level 8, try shifting your mental focus to an area she is not stimulating as intensely. Focus on the shaft of your penis, for example. Or focus on the feeling of her body lying across yours. Your level should start to drop.

If your level dips below “8,” shift your focus back to the area on which your partner is concentrating. Your level should start to rise again. That’s all there is to it. If you want to go higher, focus on the area being stimulated. If you want to go lower, focus on an area not being stimulated so intensely.

This is not the same as thinking about baseball or your old Aunt Irma. You are not trying to mentally leave the room.

You are staying very connected to your body and very connected to your partner. You are only changing the point of connection.

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Using this fourth technique, you should be able to maintain a plateau at Level 8 for at least fifteen seconds, if not more.

TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: You don’t
have
to work in any particular order and you don’t
have
to work at any particular level. I just find that it tends to be easier when you work from low to high. I also don’t recommend doing more than four plateaus in any one session.

Save something for next time.

Student Driver on Board

You have now learned four different ways to create a plateau.

Some may appeal to you more than others, or work more effectively than others, but the truth is, the best way to create long, fabulous plateaus is to use these four techniques
all together
.

Now that may sound a bit mind boggling. At this point, you’ve barely mastered each one individually. But it’s a lot like learning to drive a car. Remember how you felt when you got behind the wheel for the first time? There you were, staring down at the clutch, the stick, the brakes, the gas, and the turn signals, thinking, “How am I ever going to learn to do all of these things at the same time?” But you did, didn’t you?

When you learned to drive a car, you didn’t start by doing everything at once. You added things in, one or two at a time.

Well, that’s what you’re

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going to do in these plateauing exercises. So spend some time with these exercises. When you get comfortable with one plateauing technique, try to add a second, and then a third. Before you know it, working simultaneously with all four methods will be almost automatic.

Don’t worry if you’re not a quick study. You don’t
have
to work with all four techniques simultaneously to have great plateaus. It’s just easier when you’re using all four together.

That’s probably hard to imagine right now, but you’ll understand once you’ve had a little practice.

Feel Like Makin’ Love?

It’s nice to be beside your partner when you’re learning how to create plateaus for the first time. But once you’ve started getting comfortable with your newest techniques, it might be even nicer to be
inside
her.

There’s something about being inside a woman that gives most men extra incentive to stretch out those plateaus. Your partner is going to be just as into these exercises as you are; she may even be doing a little plateauing of her own. A lot of women who are multiorgasmic are actually plateauing at Level 9.9. Their arousal is up so high for so long that they just start crossing over to Level 10 over and over, having orgasm after orgasm. You’re going to learn a different method—something that works better for men—but I thought you’d appreciate knowing this little piece of multiple orgasm trivia.

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a few plateaus inside your partner. Experiment with maintaining different levels of arousal during intercourse. The four techniques you will be using are the same: changing your breathing, squeezing your PC muscle, changing your motion, and changing your focus. Be adventurous. Party.

Just don’t forget that you both have jobs to go to on Monday morning.

Please do remember that you don’t have to have intercourse in any of these exercises to make them wonderful and special. If you’re still most comfortable with the genital caress, stay with it for now. There will be plenty of opportun-ities for intercourse later on, once you have solidified your new skills. The most important thing right now is to just keep practicing, and practicing, and practicing.…

C H A P T E R T E N

YOUR FIRST MULTIPLE

ORGASM

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A
llison and Daniel, who you read about in the beginning of this book, are once again making love on a Sunday morning. They are the same two people they were a month ago, but they don’t feel like the same two people.

Their lovemaking started when Daniel walked out of the shower and was greeted by Allison, who was wearing nothing but a large blue and white striped bath towel. When she wrapped the towel around the two of them, Daniel responded immediately.

Right now they are on top of their queen-size bed where they have been making love for the last ten minutes. They are both totally turned on, and Daniel feels he is ready to have an orgasm, but Daniel knows that Allison needs another five minutes of intercourse before she can climax.
No problem
.

What was once a source of incredible stress for Daniel and disappointment for Allison is no longer. Daniel knows that this time he can have a powerful orgasm without disturbing the erotic connection. Allison, who knows that Daniel’s orgasm does not signal the end of their lovemaking, becomes even more excited. It’s thrilling for her to be with Daniel, knowing that he can climax and still keep going.

After his first orgasm, Daniel is able to maintain his erection and continue thrusting until Allison also reaches orgasm.

Allison is so excited by Daniel that she actually reaches her climax much sooner than he had anticipated.

Daniel feels that he could keep going for another twenty minutes, but the chime of the grandfather clock in the hall reminds him that they are sup-122 / BARBARA KEESLING, PH.D.

posed to meet friends for brunch, and that they had better start moving in that direction. At this point, Daniel decides to have his second orgasm. This time, he will ejaculate.

Until recently, Daniel, like you, knew only one type of orgasm: a single orgasm accompanied by simultaneous ejaculation. Not anymore. Today, he understands that:

• Orgasm and ejaculation do not have to occur together; they are two distinct phenomena that can be experienced as separate pleasures.

• A nonejaculatory orgasm feels as good, if not better, than a conventional orgasm.

• Having a nonejaculatory orgasm enables you to maintain an erection and continue intercourse.

• It is possible to have a second orgasm soon after your first orgasm. It is even possible to have a third or fourth orgasm, whether or not you ejaculate with any or all of your orgasms. Daniel has learned all of this through his own experience. Now it is time for you to learn.

You are about to have your first multiple orgasm. Prepare yourself—life may never be quite the same again. You have reached this point because you have worked hard. You have turned weak muscle into steel, mastered the most subtle nuances of your own physiology, ascended difficult peaks, and traversed many daunting plateaus. You may even have slain a dragon or two along the way.

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You have met all the challenges, and probably had quite a bit of fun doing so. It’s time to rid both you and your damsel of your distress.

In this chapter you will learn the techniques that will transform you from a mild-mannered orgasmic man into a multiorgasmic superhero. If you have followed my instructions carefully and done your homework thoroughly, the transformation will not be difficult. You will not need a phone booth. You will not need tights and a cape. You will not need to hide your identity from your loved ones. In this legion of superheroes, enthusiasm and a bit of hard work are the only requirements for admission.

Two Ways to the Top

As you will soon see, the key to separating orgasm from ejaculation lies in the proper use of a well-developed PC

muscle. If you are not yet confident in the power of your PC, now is the time to go back to the earlier exercises and build the necessary strength. You’ll get to the good stuff soon enough, and your patience and efforts will be rewarded in extraordinary ways. If, on the other hand, your PC has done its job to your satisfaction in all of the previous exercises, you are probably ready to take the final steps.

There are actually many paths to achieving male multiple orgasm. In this chapter, you’re going to learn two of them.

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dence. They are the methods my colleagues and I have worked with the most and like the most.

The first method you are going to learn is what we call the

“one-shot” technique. It is a shortcut of sorts that was developed by my colleague and mentor Dr. Michael Riskin.

Dr. Riskin calls it a one-shot technique because he can usually teach the technique in only one office session (assuming you’ve done all of the preparatory work presented in the preceding chapters.) You walk into the office a man, and you walk out a multiorgasmic man. Amazing.

The second method is the one I teach most often in private practice with my clients. I’m a bit more conservative than some of my colleagues, and this method takes a little bit longer to learn, whether you are learning at home or at my office. But the results are always impressive.

At the clinic, we like to tease each other about whose techniques are best. It certainly makes for interesting conversation at the water cooler, but we all know that our opinions are only our opinions. The truth is, every client has his own preferences, and there is no way to predict yours. As I’ve said before, every man is slightly different, and what works best or feels best for one does not work as well or feel as good for the next. We have all seen the effectiveness of both methods and we know they’re both good. In this chapter, you’ll have the opportunity to experiment with both and decide for yourself.

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Fairy Tales Can Come True (Or, The Tortoise and the Hare Revisited)

Dr. Riskin’s one-shot technique is the fastest way I know for a man to reach his first multiple orgasm. It is also easier to learn than the second method. When it works, it’s amazing.

But please take note:
The one shot technique does not work for
every man
. It is a shortcut, and shortcuts do not always work.

The second method in this chapter is far more thorough and far more foolproof. It takes a little more time to learn, but the payoff awaits.

If this one-shot method does not work for you, you have absolutely no reason to get discouraged. It does not mean that there is something wrong with your equipment and it does not mean that you will never have a multiple orgasm.

All it means is that you spent a few minutes trying something new, and it didn’t work. You will learn the one-shot method first because it does save time.

If the one-shot technique does not work for you, do not stop. Do not pass GO. Do not skip a turn. Do not pack your bags and head for Fiji. Instead, please go immediately to the second set of exercises in this chapter. These more compre-hensive techniques are not harder to learn. There are more steps in the process, but it is not a difficult process if you follow my instructions. Yes, it may take you a bit longer before you have your first multiple orgasm, but you
will
have it. Plus, you will also have learned a valu-126 / BARBARA KEESLING, PH.D.

able lesson about the benefits of patience and commitment.

Then someday, years from now, when you are sitting with your great-grandchildren reading “The Tortoise and the Hare,” you’ll remember these moments, and tell the story with much greater conviction.