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Vaginal Os. While vaginal orgasms are technically possible without any direct clitoral stimulation, the clitoris usually receives indirect erotic stimulation during penetration, with the penis pushing and pulling on the inner labia, which tugs and tantalizes the clitoris, too. Expand your lover’s orgasmic potential by including more deliberate clitoral stimulation, instead of hoping for indirect success.

G-spot Os. These deeper, longer, more body-wide orgasms can be your lover’s when you stimulate her G-spot just right. Her G-spot will usually be even more responsive after one or two clitoral orgasms, followed by continuing clitoral pleasure together with G-spot simulation. Find out more: see chapter 10 for the ins and outs.

Multiple Os. If your lover’s rest time between orgasms is measured in minutes—or seconds—she has a gift for multiple orgasms. It’s a team effort to bring them on: shortly after she comes, you begin gentle clitoral stimulation as she squeezes and holds her pelvic muscles tight, thinking about the joy of another orgasm. It’ll feel like she’s between a sensitive breathtaking delight and an almost unbearable “ticklish” sensation as she reaches for another orgasm…and another!

Liquid Os. One of the most powerful full-body pleasures of all, “female ejaculation” most often occurs during a G-spot orgasm, causing a rush of clear liquid from the urethra, which is not urine, and perfectly normal. In fact, most women and men find it highly arousing! Read more about the power of liquid orgasms in chapter 10.

Supersize Your HE-gasms!

Because orgasms feel so good and happen so naturally, it’s easy to just accept what comes. Till now, perhaps?

Stronger Os. You can easily bulk-up your “orgasm muscle” for greater pleasures—and send your ejaculate flying further! Just try a simple exercise during halftime, lunchtime or drivetime, and soon, at the moment of orgasm, squeeze your strengthened orgasm muscle for an explosive result! Want to try? Turn to the next page.

Longer Os. Get to know your orgasmic “trigger point”—as well as the instant just before that point of no return when you can still hold back. As it nears, stop stroking (or pull out) and relax your body till the feeling vanishes—then start up again. Repeat this technique (aka “edging”) several times, so when you finally let yourself explode, your orgasm should last longer than ever!

Multiple Os. If you wish to pick up again without the usual downtime in between orgasms, learn to orgasm without ejaculating. The difference? Orgasm is the pleasurable feeling of climax, while ejaculation is the actual fluid release. Practice combining the stronger and longer techniques above to achieve Multiple Os.

Simultaneous Os. Coming together isn’t a requirement for great sex—but it is great! By learning your partner’s sexual responses, you can time yourself to hold back and climax with her. Since women can take at least three times longer to orgasm, stimulate her with lots of foreplay, as well as a clitoral orgasm or two before intercourse. If she communicates her excitement with a heated cry of “I’m coming!”—you can let go at the right moment and come together. It doesn’t come easy, but what fun you’ll have trying!

Cowgirls & Cowboys!

Strengthen Your Orgasm Muscle!

If you really have to pee, but there’s no bathroom in sight, the muscle you must squeeze to hold it in is called your Pubococcygeus muscle, (a.k.a. the PC or pelvic muscle). In women and men, the PC muscle stretches from the anus, across the pelvic region to the pubic bone, and it’s what you feel contracting involuntarily during orgasm, creating those indescribable waves of sexual pleasure.

Now that you know where it is, what it does, and how to flex it, why not learn how to strengthen it? The power of your orgasms depends on it!

PC muscle toning exercises are called Kegels (KAY-gulls), which are simply the act of squeezing and releasing these muscles. Begin a good habit of doing Kegels when you have a few spare moments, like waiting at red lights. They’re best performed on an empty bladder, and not during urination. Here’s an excellent daily toning-and-tightening workout:

1. Clench your PC muscle tight, and hold for 4 seconds.

2. Unclench for 3 seconds.

3. Repeat 10 times.

4. Perform a total of 5 sets over the course of each day.

Breathe steadily, and clench only your PC muscle—not your butt or stomach muscles. Go ahead, try it now—even if you’re in the middle of a bookstore.

Successful toning can lead you to enjoy longer, stronger, more frequent, multiple or first orgasms! In women, it can help rejuvenate vaginal tightness after childbirth, or offer a new grip if you’re sleeping with a less-than-girthy lover. For men, it can help reverse erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Results may take several weeks, but keep at it—the improvement can be dramatic.

Dr. Sadie Sez: Ladies, Be A Super-Kegeler!

For faster progress, try using Kegel exercise products specifically designed to help you strengthen your orgasm muscle.

Cowboys Only!

Cowgirls: Skip ahead to chapter 4, or read on if you dare.

Ahhh… Those first frenzied moments when penis touches labia. When every sexual sensory cell yearns to be stroked. When the thrill of conquest is on the verge of being rewarded. When the primal need to plunge propels you forward into slippery-hot tightness.

There’s a real art to intensifying these feelings of penetration for you and your lover—and you’re the artist.

But knowing she will experience these first few moments of ecstasy differently from you is key to creating your masterpiece.

What does she crave? How can you supercharge it? Come probe.

Wetness: The Lube of Love

It probably goes against every bone in your body—especially that big throbbing one—but unless your woman tells you she wants it hard and fast right from the get-go, resist the lust to thrust.

Why? She’s not ready.

Your lover won’t feel very loving if you start trying to penetrate before she’s fully preheated. It’s boorish, selfish, and can be uncomfortable or even painful for her. Remember: If she’s dry, standby. If she’s wet, you’re all set.

Treat Her To An Exotic Labial Massage

This massage isn’t on the menu at any spa—but add it to your menu and she could flow like a fountain.

Dr. Sadie Sez: Foreplay Means Play Before.

That eager erection of yours is no indicator of your lover’s readiness for intercourse—just your own. If you find it hard to stop yourself, go back and review the etiquette and passion sections in chapter 1 and I guarantee better sex for both of you!

Dr. Sadie Sez: A Sex Lube to Drool For.

No lube handy? You always have a ready supply of saliva. While it works, it’s also short-lived and will stop being slippery very quickly. Be sure to reapply often, or the dry friction will ruin your pleasure play. Better yet, always keep a bottle of quality sex lube nearby—and apply it generously.

Here’s how: drizzle a little sex lube or saliva directly into the action and spread it around, so you’re both glistening and slippery.

With your hand, slowly guide the head of your slippery erect penis right up to the entrance of her vagina. Resist the urge to go deep! Instead, slowly tease by circling the tip all around the opening, then glide it between her labia up to her clitoris. After a few tempting clitoral swirls, slide it back down to the opening.

Repeat your special massage with several more sensual laps up and down her labia. Admire the view, enjoy the sensations, don’t rush, and use all your superpowers to stay outside. Your rewards will soon come.

Making Your Grand Entrance

When you can’t wait any longer, use your hand to help slide the head of your penis inside. Feel her soft lips surround you as you stimulate those millions of pleasure cells at the mouth of her vagina.

But now’s not the time to go on autopilot—use your sixth sense to match the angle of your erection to her angle of acceptance. Start slowly, and if all is well, go a little deeper, then deeper, then deeper till you’re completely inside.

This is what many women fondly call the “hurts so good” moment—when the vagina is spread wider with pleasure by your grand penetration and the thrilling feeling of fullness. If your lover is expressive, you’ll hear all about it in her sensual vocalizations.

Now you’re faced with a choice. You can start pounding in’n’out like every other Tom, Harry and Dick—or you can thrill her with some incredible sensual abilities, which is exactly what she wants!

Get Your Pump On

By nature, the male always has some (or most) control over the pumping. So why limit yourself to driving in just one gear?

Head Bob. To tease her into a yearning frenzy, stroke shallowly, in’n’out, with just the head of your penis for awhile, nothing deeper.

Combo Platter. Try three mini-pumps only a few inches inside, followed by one long, deep, graceful thrust. Repeat in rhythm.

Divine Grind. Show her you know her by grinding your cushy pubic bone into her tender clitoris…slowly…sensually…erotically …while your penis fills her.

Knead To Speed. After a slow, teasing start, accelerate your pumping toward orgasm. If you feel like you’re going to come too soon, downshift and try the Divine Grind.

Angle The Dangle. Your mission: find ALL your lover’s internal pleasure spots. Pivot and angle your penis all around till she moves and moans with pleasure.

Love Lever G. With your penis buried inside, angle and position for targeted G-spot stroking. To line up your target, see chapter 10.

Jackhammer. Some women love it hard and fast. Some don’t know till they try it. And the rest will never like it. So try it once—and if she goes crazy with delight, keep drilling!

Rhythm Nation. There’s a reason sex is known as horizontal dancing—it’s the rhythm. Rather than pump mechanically—groove to the excitement of making love together, pumping, grinding and gyrating in synch with your mutual passion as your entire bodies sway in harmony, including hips, shoulders and knees.

Secrets To Being Her Sexiest Pleasure Partner

Whether this is brand new to you, or merely a refresher course, the biggest thrills of sex are now in your capable hands:

Run the warm wet tip of your tongue up her neck, slowly and seductively to her ear, then halfway down. Add in a few angel kisses and exhale lightly to excite her now-moistened skin.

Try gentle hair-pulling, pinching, spanking, scratching, tickling, tossing, chasing, loving, wrestling in the nude. Be creative and surprise each other!

Engage those living sextoys also known as hands! Feel your sexual energy flow through your fingers wherever you touch, from her hair to her feet.

Kiss like a rock star. With all your soul. Every time.

Lick like a movie star. Nibble, kiss, bite and tug all over her luscious body—especially her highly sensitive nipples.

Think of your penis as a multi-function pleasure device with variable speeds and lots of factory options—not simply a one-speed jackhammer.

Dr. Sadie Sez: Four Ways To GUARANTEE Super Sex.

Be attuned to her body—with ALL your senses.

Go slow—this isn’t rush hour.

Be clitoris-cunning—touch, tease, titillate, tantalize.

Practice sex safely—all the time.

Treat her natural lube like rare nectar—gently glide your fingertips over her glistening labia and spread her lube all over her most arousable spots.

Instead of heading directly into the heat of the action, try teasing her inner thighs and everywhere BUT her vagina till it glistens and aches to be touched.

Squeeze, cup, knead and draw her butt closer to you as you enter her—and with every breathtaking stroke.

Does she like to be “taken?” Try grasping both her hands, and pin them down on the bed over her head. Now grind slowly inside as you nibble on her ear lobes and whisper naughty words.

While you’re deep inside her, flex your PC muscles and arouse her with a surprising heartbeat sensation. Go to page 18 and see how to get good at it!

Is she a buttplay fan? Once she’s preheated, send your hands and mouth exploring toward her butt cheeks for erotic massaging, spanking and tonguing. As you slowly approach and encircle her sensitive anus, if she starts moaning and arching toward you, you’ll have your answer!

Are you at half-mast? Never try to shoehorn your penis inside and pray for wood. Take a break and enjoy lots of erotic fun while bringing yourself back to hardness. Use your hands and mouth and enjoy her pleasure.

What’s her fetish? You don’t know? Try exploring, probing and asking to find out if there are any beneath the surface just waiting to explode. And wait’ll you see how wild she gets when you uncover her sexual secrets!

Out of breath? Take a break—this isn’t a marathon. Nibble on chocolate, sip some water, catch your breath. Then get back to business.

Whisper. Moan. Or Wake The Neighborhood!

Usually, good sex isn’t so quiet. For some, it’s even more exciting when others may be listening. But the natural sounds of sex don’t have to be loud—just thrilling.

Language. Often the right words at the right time can trigger an orgasmic volcano. Tell her how sexy she is, how good she smells, how hot she makes you feel. Maybe she’ll follow your lead.

Talk dirty. Here’s where you finally get to say all those really dirty words, but in the right context. If your lover can handle it, look her in the eye and tell her exactly what you’re going to do to her.

Ejaculations. Not the liquid kind, but the verbal kind! Instead of words, guide her to what feels good with moans, sighs, deep breathing, loud ohhhhs and long sensual aaaaaaahhhhs.

Listen closely. Her vocalizations are clues to what she likes (and what she doesn’t). Take her verbal cues and set off some fireworks. And if you hear her moan, “Just like THAT. Yes! Right there. Don’t stop!”—then don’t stop—no matter what!

Ask. It’s okay to use words to discover her physical cravings. Say, “Does this feel good?” or “Should I rub a little harder?” Then do exactly what she wants.

Cork Poppers Anonymous

If concentrating on the rules of baseball or mentally reciting the Pledge of Allegiance is your secret way to keep from coming too quickly, perhaps you’d like to find a better way.